The issue of cheating.
Time and time again the question as to how “serious” an
offense is cheating has been asked. In the Nigerian society where a lot of
women are not financially capable of adequately providing for themselves and
their children without the support of the major breadwinner AKA their husbands,
there is little choice in the matter. You hear things like “he is just being a
man” and “as long as he provides for me and the kids” or “After all, I am the
one he comes back home to every day”.
So let’s ask the question, how serious of an offense is
cheating? Is it just “I don’t feel anything for her it was just fun” or “you
know it’s you I love, you are my number one” etc. since this is a blog about my
opinions I would tell you what it means to me for someone to cheat.
Firstly, it means that they have consciously put you at risk
of contracting an STD. Don’t give me that story about condoms like they are
100% safe. I know a lot of people believe this. In fact, someone once said to me
that she does not know of any responsible men who do not wear condoms to cheat.
Responsible and cheat in the same sentence? What is this world becoming? Oh and
please let us know when they have condoms for the mouth because a lot of STDs
can be contracted with the mouth.
Secondly, I simply don’t mean that much to you. I wise man
once said, “do not gamble with what you cannot afford to lose”. You take a
gamble with our relationship and thinking its OK means you can afford to lose
us and I really should not be with you.
Lastly, what does that say about you as a person? People a
wired in a way that their attitude to one thing is most likely the way they
look at all other things in life. If you can cheat in one area of your life why
not others? Just saying that cheating can give you an insight into the kind of
person you are.
